I play a lot of online Euchre. Like more than a normal person should. It's one of my guilty pleasures.
The app I use allows other players to see my profile photo from Facebook. Which , obviously, is a photo of my face holding a Posh product. Well, my face isn't holding the product, but you get the picture.
In the app players can talk to each other and a lot of them like to heckle the opposing team. I mean, that's just a part of competition, right? So it never bothers me that players say innappropraite and mean things on the app. It's not personal, until it is ...
Today one of the male players saw my profile photo and said to me , " That double chin needs some work."
Now mind you I am 4'11 and 143 lbs. It's not how I would ideally like to look, and my body isn't in the shape it was before I had 4 kids (including twin boys), but it is my reality, for now.
I could have laid into this person about what an absolute douchebag he was for commenting on my weight, but I didn't retaliate when this man made his comment. I just thought, "Wow, he must be a really miserable person." The truth of the matter is people that say things like that are really struggling themselves. Hurt people hurt people.
This man doesn't know anything about my life. How I struggle with my weight since having kids, sure, but mostly that there isn't anything he could say to me that I haven't already said to myself at some point in time.
We see this kind of behavior everywhere on the internet today. People bashing other people behind the safety of their devices, when in real life they wouldn't even have the balls to make eye contact with you.
So the next time someone says something vile to you behind the protection of their computer screen just remember these three things :
1. F&*ck them. You're awesome .
2. Hurt people hurt people.
3. You don't even know this person and their opinion of you doesn't matter.
When you don't retaliate to this kind of negativity you will feel a great sense of peace. When you don't feed the monster ... it dies ... and you win. ;)
So keep being amazing mama. You are a queen.