I found myself putting my feelings of being so tired all day every day on the back burner because I just thought, "Hey, it's normal to feel this way as a mom."
Then I started to notice that I was rarely having "good" days, as in, days where I didn't feel completely drained.
I would wake up, grab my coffee and chug it in hopes I would wake up enough to be able to function for my kids . I don't know about you, but for me, being tired equals being irritable. I am a person that needs to feel rested to function properly. If I don't feel rested you probably don't want to be around me. Since I wasn't feeling like I had gotten any sleep, my kids were feeling the consequences .
It got to a point where everything they were doing was just grating on my nerves. My twins are very vocal and they are boys so you can imagine how their very high energy coupled with my nonexistent energy, wasn't a good combo. Add in a mouthy teenager and my very strong willed youngest daughter ... I was basically in motherhood hell, and my house was not harmonious. It was chaotic (more than normal).
So I started to research and try different things to help me feel more alive. I started making sure I went to bed earlier, drinking lots of water instead of soda, putting away the electronics before bed, not pushing myself to do things if I was feeling drained, eating differently, taking magnesium supplements and other vitamins, pampering myself with a bath each night, etc.
Basically, I started this crazy idea of caring for myself first.
Here's the thing, you cannot fill anyone else's bucket if yours is empty. You can't pour life into your kids if you feel like death. You can't take care of anyone else if you are not taking care of yourself ... FIRST. <<< Yes, I said FIRST.
Mama, you do NOT come last in your life. You come FIRST. Putting yourself first is the best thing you can do for your family. When you feel 100% your family will thrive.
If you are feeling like you are absolutely exhausted take a look at how you are treating yourself. Are you drinking enough water? Getting to bed at a decent time? Eating more than Little Debbie brownies?
I get it. It's easier said than done. Trust me I am still struggling myself. Being a mom there just isn't always enough time in the day to always put yourself first, BUT you can begin at least thinking about your own needs and how catering to yourself will not only revive you, it will enrich your family's life as well. They need you Mama. Your best you.
Take care of yourself first. You deserve it.